You are not worried about it. You are just thinking about it.
Late at night, when the house is quiet, does any of this sound like you:
"I do not have a problem. I know I do not have a problem. So why am I thinking about it this much? Why did I open the second bottle when I had already decided not to? Why can I not remember deciding anything? And why does everyone else seem to find this so simple?"
You know what you want your life to look like:
Sunday mornings that start before 9 and belong to you. A week where every day is yours, not two spent recovering. Evenings you can actually remember. Waking up on a Saturday and being glad about it, rather than doing sums about how bad today is going to be.
You just do not want to become a person who talks about it.
And underneath that, the thing you have not said out loud. That this might be the thing quietly costing you the most, and you have no idea how to look at it without turning it into an identity.
You can look at it without deciding anything.
Why nothing has changed yet
You have done Dry January. You have done the 2 weeks off. You have had the conversations with yourself in the car.
You have read the books. You agreed with all of it, and then it was somebody's fortieth.
You have set the rules. Only at weekends. Only with dinner. Never on a school night. And the rules last until they do not.
Here is what I know. It is not a willpower problem. You have more willpower than almost anyone, which is how you got the career you have.
It is a comfort zone problem.
Alcohol is not there because you are weak. It is there because it is doing a job. Taking the edge off the day, and being the one thing in your week that nobody needs anything from you for.
You cannot willpower your way out of something that is doing a job. You have to see the job clearly first, and then decide whether you still want it done that way.
Which is why everything below starts with looking, not stopping.
My story
The upstairs bedroom
In 2022 I was 35, sitting on the bed in the spare room at my parents' house.
I had moved back in during COVID. I had a career people would call successful. And I could not work out why I was so unhappy.
I was journaling that morning, and I wrote down something I had never actually put in a sentence before. Alcohol has been in my life since I was a teenager. And if I am honest, it has not been serving me.
Then I made the list. The divorce. The relationships that went nowhere. The Sundays spent dying on the sofa, gone, every week, for years. The Monday mornings walking into work doing the mental replay of Friday night, wondering if I had made an idiot of myself. And the anxiety, which I had decided was just my personality, sitting underneath all of it.
None of it looked like a drinking problem. It looked like my life.
So I decided to take a break. A year, no big announcement, mostly to see what happened.
I started in the October, which meant my first month was Sober October and plenty of other people were doing it too. That is an easier way to begin than announcing a year to anybody. Nobody had to know what I had actually decided.
One of the things that got me through was tracking my stats. I am an accountant after all. The numbers did something willpower never had. They made it real. Not the shame version, not the "should I be worried about this" version. Just what was happening to my sleep, my money, my mornings and my head.
That year changed everything. I retrained as a coach. I built friendships I still have. I moved abroad for the job I wanted. All of it happened in the mornings I got back.
I did not have a problem with alcohol. I had a comfort zone with it. Everything on this page is what I wish somebody had handed me on that bed.
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Start with the 2 free ones
They work together. One counts what is happening, the other explains it. Either works on its own.
THE 4 WEEK RESET JOURNAL, AF EDITION
20 questions about what alcohol is actually doing, 5 a week for 4 weeks, built on my RESET method. 15 minutes each, or the whole week in one go on a Sunday morning.
At the end there is an AI prompt. You paste your 20 answers in and it hands you back the patterns you cannot see from the inside, including the thing you avoided all month.
THE 30 DAY AF EXPERIMENT
30 days, tracked properly. Days, sleep, mood, anxiety, and exactly what you have not spent, with the sums done for you and a Day 31 page showing what it all added up to.
This is the one I built out of what I wish I had tracked from the start. Not a streak counter. A month of real data about your own life.
Both arrive by email, along with the Sunday newsletter: one small action, every Sunday morning. Unsubscribe whenever you like, no hard feelings.
Imagine 30 days from now
It is a Sunday morning. You woke up before 8 without an alarm, and the first thing you noticed was that you did not have to run the checks. What did I say. Who was I with. How bad is today going to be. You make a coffee and take it back to bed, or to the garden, or out. The whole day is in front of you and none of it is going to be spent recovering. You open the tracker and look at the number in the money box, which is larger than you expected and slightly annoying. You are not different. You have not become a person who talks about wellness. You are just here, on a Sunday, with the whole day. And you have 30 days of your own data telling you what actually happened, so whatever you decide next, you are deciding it with the facts rather than the vibe.
IF YOU WANT TO GO FURTHER
Hungover to Happiness
4 weeks, self paced. A video from me each week, a 48 page workbook, £37.
The tracker and the journal show you what is going on. This one takes it apart. It is the same work I did on myself, in the order I wish I had done it. Self paced, so you can run it over 4 weeks or 4 months. No live calls to move your diary for, nothing expiring, nobody watching.
What the 4 weeks cover
04
Integration and Brave Living
Who belongs in your inner circle and who belongs further out. The emotional, social and time boundaries that protect the woman you are becoming. And a letter to yourself a year from now, which you will save and read.
01
Your Alcohol Story
You map the whole thing on a Timeline of Truth: every turning point, every good night, every hangover you have not forgotten. Then the Promise vs the Price, what alcohol offered you against what it delivered. You name the myths you believed about it, and write the truth you know now.
02
Compassion and Courage
The difference between shame and guilt, which is the distinction almost nobody has ever explained to you and the one that changes everything. Then the work of putting the weight down, and rewriting the story you have been telling about yourself since the first time you did something you regretted.
03
Identity and Alignment
Who you are underneath the roles, the habits and the job title. Which of your beliefs are actually yours and which ones you inherited from somebody who is not you. And the gap between the 3 words people use to describe you and the 3 you want to be known for.
WHAT'S INCLUDED
What you receive
The videos. 4 sessions, one for each week, recorded by me. Watch on a Sunday morning with a coffee or on a Wednesday night in your dressing gown. They are short enough that you will actually watch them.
The workbook. 48 pages, every exercise laid out with space to write. Print it or type into it. This is where the course actually happens, so it is built to be written in.
The closing rituals. Each week ends with one, small and deliberate. It is the part women tell me they did not expect to like.
Lifetime access. It sits in your account. Come back to week 2 in 18 months if that is when you need it.
Your own pace. No cohort, no start date, no falling behind, nobody to let down but yourself. Which, for women like us, is usually the only accountability that has ever worked.
£37, one payment.
"I do not have a drinking problem."
Neither did I. That is rather the point. This is not built for women in crisis, it is built for the ones who are quietly wondering, which is a much bigger group and one almost nobody speaks to honestly. If alcohol has got to a place where you could not safely stop on your own, please talk to your GP first. Stopping suddenly after heavy or daily drinking can be physically dangerous, and that is a doctor's conversation, not a course.
"I do not want to give it up forever."
Then do not. The tracker is 30 days and the journal is 4 weeks. What you do on day 31 is entirely your business. Most women find the decision easier to make once the data is in front of them, whichever way they go.
"I have tried before and it did not stick."
You tried to stop. This starts by looking. You cannot hold a change you have not understood yet.
"I do not have time for a course."
It is 4 videos and a workbook. You decide when.
"Why is it only £37?"
Because I would rather it was in a lot of hands than a few. The 1:1 coaching is where the depth is and it is priced accordingly. This is the version you do on your own, and I would rather you did it on your own than not at all.
"Will anyone see what I write?"
No. Nothing you write is submitted anywhere or shared with me unless you choose to send it.
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